Talk To Your Teens About Dating Relationships

Data from the Center for Prevention of Abuse indicates that in 2023 nearly 1 in 11 female high school students and approximately 1 in 14 male high school students report having experienced physical dating violence in the past year.  

Youth who are victims of teen dating violence are more likely to experience depression and anxiety symptoms, engage in unhealthy behaviors like using tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, exhibit antisocial behaviors like lying, theft, or bullying, or think about suicide. 

Talking about this topic with a teenager can be hard, but here are some tips that may help: 

Define a healthy relationship. There are countless examples of healthy and unhealthy relationships in movies, television shows, and within today’s current events. Use these examples as conversation starters about expectations for healthy relationships. 

Encourage open communication. Ask your teens about their opinions on unhealthy and healthy relationships. Talk about topics such as boundaries, privacy, consent, and respect. Do not dismiss their perspective if it doesn’t align with your own; encourage debate and self-reflection. 

Define expectations and boundaries. Let your teen know of any rules you may have, including curfews. Give them an opportunity to contribute to the discussion. 

Create a supportive environment where teens feel safe discussing their feelings and experiences without fear of judgment or punishment. Be sure to let them know you support them in the dating process. Lend a compassionate and supportive ear when necessary. If they feel more comfortable talking to someone else about dating, find a trusted mentor or counselor to allow them to share their feelings. Whatever way you intend to support your teen, make sure they know that you are available. 

Educate your teens on the signs of abusive behavior and encourage them to speak up if they or their friends experience such behavior. Describe the different types of abuse and associated warning signs. Remember to discuss physical, emotional, sexual, financial, and digital abuse. 

Regularly discussing these topics and providing resources, such as counseling or hotlines, can empower teens to make informed and safe choices in their relationships. Contact your local Family Advocacy Program for additional information and support.